“I knew Thomas was finding sixth form hard, but he seemed to get over the bump in the road and was doing a bit better. There was no ongoing mental health diagnosis or obvious signs when he took his own life. It was completely out of the blue.
“When we got his phone for the inquest we found notes about how he was struggling and feeling suicidal, but he hadn’t spoken to anyone about it. I think if he’d have spoken to somebody, the outcome could have been different.”
Talking helps, but taking the first step to to talk about suicidal thoughts is hard. That’s why Rebecca’s been raising awareness of CALM’s helpline and webchat. She hopes it’ll help other young people who might be struggling.
“It was important to us to raise awareness for the support that’s out there and to show that it’s normal to find things hard when you’re at such a vulnerable age. That’s why we wanted to make people aware of CALM’s helpline and webchat.”
Rebecca wanted to do something in Thomas’ memory that would show his mates it’s normal to have bad days, but that help is out there. They took on the Lost Hours Walk, a fundraising event helping to raise money and awareness for our life-saving services.
She hopes doing stuff like this will help open up conversations and support people like Thomas, who didn’t feel able to talk about what he was going through.
“If Thomas had spoken to somebody he might have realised it was normal and that there were other ways out of how he was feeling. We need to destigmatise things so that people don’t feel like a burden or like they’re trapped. There are always ways to move forward, even if you can’t see them.”
Help us to pick up the phone to people like Thomas. This summer, we’re asking you to donate to our helpline and webchat, so we can continue to be there for anyone struggling. Your donation could be life-saving.